Sharing custody of your children is never easy, even if you and the other parent have a decent relationship. Deciding on holidays, birthdays, vacations and weekends can be challenging. There’s so much that needs to go into a shared-custody agreement in order to make it a success and we will discuss some of it in today’s post.
One of the best ways to make this arrangement a success is to establish a strong line of communication between you and the other parent. You don’t have to talk to each other daily or even face to face. Just make sure that you agree to a form of communication and stick to it. Don’t take forever to answer questions.
The next step is to be realistic and honest when creating a schedule. Don’t try to take on too much at once. You have a work schedule, doctor appointments and other activities to attend. Don’t agree to have your children or to being at their events when you cannot make them.
Speak no evil. This is a very important rule to follow. Children are very impressionable. Don’t fill their head with lies about their other parent. This will only hurt your relationship with the children and the other parent.
Let your children be heard. Find out what is bothering them. Ask them how they feel. Try to help them adjust to this new life as much as possible. The divorce was all about you. Now it’s all about the children.
Ensuring successful shared custody takes a lot of work and effort on everyone’s part, especially you and the other parent. You don’t want to look back years from now and realize you let a great opportunity slip through your hands.